It is not always love and harmony between two persons in a relationship. Even the smallest thing that someone does can cause you to become angry or unhappy when you are in love.
Everybody makes errors. In partnerships, it is crucial to avoid making mistakes that are irreparable and have the potential to destroy the partnership.
Here are some things you can do if you want to patch things up with your partner after noticing that he is upset with you:
1. Treat his anger as a call for help
One possible reason for your man’s anger is they are experiencing psychological distress. Hence, offer him assistance. See if there is something you could do to make him feel better. If you try to understand what make him upset, he will know how to manage with it easier.
2. Try to remain calm
It is very natural for your temper to flare when your partner is angry. However, your counter-anger will only escalate the tension. Though it is difficult, try to remain calm and patient. When you feel your temper rising, breathe and then respond thoughtfully.
3. Make him feel emotionally safe
If your man is angry than say soothing words to your husband instead of criticizing him. Besides, listen to him carefully and emotionally support him. And I do remember that men too need emotional safety just as much as women do.
4. Practice compassion
This is another solution you need. Turn your angry husband’s hostile feelings into love and kindness through compassion. Practicing compassion against his intense reactions can help heal you both.
5. Listen to him actively
Never wait until he finishes talking before talking; never. Bill of Rights states that we are entitled to communicate directly to them without being represented by a third party and also use reflective listening. It is very important that you reiterate whatever your partner shares to you. Otherwise he will feel disconnected unless he feels you get, or feel, what he is saying or feeling.
6. Spot the anger early
Keep in mind that prevention is better than cure. Early intervention from your side either keeps the anger from starting or at least keeps it from getting stronger. The sooner you recognize the anger, the greater your ability to respond and manage the situation before it gets out of control.